CONTROL YOUR SEXUAL URGE IN 7STEPS -PART3

It’s crystal clear that when sexual urges arise within us, we end up looking for quick solutions to get rid of them. Nonetheless, those solutions of ours won't last for long, because it is impossible to control sexual urge via an abrupt fix.
It needs a meticulous understanding, inner calmness, a bunch of patience and a rigorous commitment.

On this note, I welcome you to today's edition and final gist on the subject matter. Let's go as I unveil what I've got for you. You definitely will love it.

YOUR THOUGHTS
The brain publishes the hormones that control sexual urges. Did You know?
So training your mind to quickly diffuse sexual thoughts that come into your mind is key. This is where self-awareness plays a vital role as it is only when you recognize your thoughts are gliding to sex issues that you can be able to draw away...

Altogether, don't whip yourself up for thinking about sex; it's natural - See - FORMED THIS WAY - but you must not allow it control you. You've gotta engage your mind on productive things than sex for such thoughts to disappear. This comes with practice (as you know that practice makes perfection). The more you give in to this practice, the more susceptible you become when those thoughts invade your mind. - ”Be a master of your thoughts.”

BE WORDED
”But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” Rom 13:14. 
Funny enough, sexual thoughts don't fear whether you are reading the Bible, or you are in the church and your pastor is preaching, they just crawl into your mind at will. Sounds somehow right? Na so e be - the matter tie wrapper! (on a lighter note).

This is the more reason you should be equipped with the word of God to scatter those thoughts. - ”We are transformed by the renewing of our minds.” Rom 12:2 (that's God's word). I plead that you spend quality time with the word. The sufficient intake of the word daily determines how nourished and healthy your mind will be.

And David the man after God's own heart said; ”The word of the Lord have I hid in my heart that I might not sin against thee.” That's a man with an understanding of God's word and who has equipped and soaked himself with the word. You too can be like David!

The word of God has the capacity to flush out that tommyrot images in the course of your day to day activity. As you consistently come before the word that your mind will be moistened and refilled with God's thoughts. - ”Be equipped with the word.”

ALCOHOL & DRUGS

If you are looking to divert your attention from sex urges, then a bottle of your favourite liquor won't give you the peace you need. Little quantity of alcohol can boost your sexual urge and alcohol contains ethanol that precipitates the hypothalamus - this is a part of the brain that is responsible for regulating hunger, hormone levels, body temperature, and our dear, libido.

You see why you don't need alcohol no matter how small it may seem because it can aggravate sexual urges. Research has it that specific scents stimulate sex urges and bizarrely enough, most of these scents are found in wine. - ”Wine is an aphrodisiac - avoid it.”

Wow, what a topic! I trust with the effective application of these 7steps to CONTROL YOUR SEXUAL URGE as we come to the end of this series.
Would you mind sharing your thoughts in the comments below?

CONTROL YOUR SEXUAL URGE IN 7STEPS - PART2

Sexual urge ain't something to be rejected or shoved. Okay, they are very substantial and definitely WILL discover a means to accomplishment.

Now, get up every day with a desire for some creative work. Trust me, this desire is as well made up of the same thing as the sexual desire, the desire to make money, or any other desire.

So on this note, I welcome you to today's edition and continuation on the subject matter. Follow me as I open your eyes to what I've got for you. Surely, you will love it!

ACCOUNTABLE CIRCLE

Who says your circle or click of friends don't have a great impact on your day to day activity? Hello, they do! Even the holy book says; Proverbs 13:20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. This literally can mean: ”Show Me Your Friends & I Will Tell You Who You Are.”

Being with trusted & accountable circle/click of friends that encourage each other to remain moral and sacred is the best form of the decision you can ever make for yourself. This helps you to acknowledge your sexual desires before they turn into sexual immorality. - You Dig Right!
Thus, seeking for advice with others and letting them in on your struggle will help you fight through it. I'm actually referring to friends that know you, love you, as well as want you to succeed, this kind of friends definitely will provide you with spiritual guidance and support that you need so you don't fall short...

Like I said in my previous post - https://traceysflairbiz.blogspot.com/2020/05/control-your-sexual-urge-in-7steps.html?m=1 that sex was designed for marriage and that should be your mindset. So your circle/click friends can either be a group that meets constantly to talk about sex, relationship, love (Scripture related will be perfect) or a chat where you can get to ask for advice and possibly prayers too. But the expectation should be to converse tips on ways to control sexual urges when single, remain moral and most importantly learn about biblical principles that our today's culture disregards. - ”Be In That Circle That Constantly Stirs Your Heart Towards Spiritual Things” 


GET DISTRACTED

Stay busy, don't forget that the; idle mind is the devil's workshop. Get to do things that are good for you: Being idle or bored can be a trap to sin. When you feel a strong urge to have sex, do something to distract you.
This is not the time to pick up your phone to check one or two stuff on social media or turning on the TV, trust me, you are seriously looking for trouble.
PONDER ON THIS; you get to pour grains of sugar on the floor and expects ants won't come to say hi? Haha, 😂 they will my dear (on a lighter note).

Stay active with useful things such as; sports, writing, art, you can do something spiritual like; listen to a song, teachings, read a Christian book, possibly pray with your friends etc. Guess what, those urges don't last especially when they have nothing to hold on to. - ”Do Something That Enables You Express Your True Self In a Way That Please God”

Did this help? Kindly share your opinions in the comment section.

CONTROL YOUR SEXUAL URGE IN 7STEPS!

So this has been a burden in my soul and pouring it out I believe is the best thing to do. Wow! Sex! Sex!! Sex!!!

Sex is something that is all over the place and no matter how some persons try to shy away from it, it won't stop the fact that it has to be talked about and practised. Regrettably, the world we are in today has almost succeeded in misleading many singles that the best way to be socially pertinent or really prove they love someone, is by having sex.

Numerous inexperienced species have become fearful of sex yet relaxed with porn, some are punctured in the ring of falling into sexual seductions and keep wondering if they can ever get out of it. On the contrary, some believers(Born Again)will never share their struggles for fear of being looked down on, there is this solace around sex chat than physical intimacy. To the point of hearing words like, Our bodies were distanced. We didn't sleep with each other. 🤔

Sexual urges now stare at our faces as the impossible that can't be subdued as a result of struggles...

Now the question still persists in the heart of many singles. Can sexual urges be controlled? What transpires when my body just desires sex? How do I deal with my emotions? This will be in series. Let's get started, follow me.

FORMED THIS WAY

I want you to come to this knowledge that sexual desires are naturally positioned on the inside of us by the Almighty who made us all. So the longing for sex is natural. You are flesh, and blood flows through your veins, you definitely must react to stimulus. But you must note that this desire was technically placed to provide the lusciousness that comes with camaraderie upon matrimony.

Having this understanding will help you look forward to marriage instead of indulging in the norms. And don't forget that; As you think in your heart, so you are. (Paraphrasing the scripture). When your thoughts revolve around sensuality outside the marriage bed, your body will work in reaction to the signals from your mind. Sex was designed for marriage and the earlier this aligns with your thought process it helps you control yourself.

FIGHT OR FLEE

Living your life daily in a world filled with all sorts of immoral act, you definitely will be faced with sexual temptation. For instance, one night you were trying to fall asleep and all of a sudden sexual thoughts flooded your mind. Trust me, you will instantly be tempted to dwell on these thoughts in your mind. Or you were surfing the internet with a clear conscience only for a sensual ad to pop up. Now, you didn't ask for it. That wasn't what you were looking for. But there it is without stress. 🤦‍♀‍

Sexual temptation is bound to come in different ways and it often doesn't give notification.

You are entitled to two options when you are faced with the above. It's either you Fight it, or you Flee from it.

Imagine walking/driving through where there are sexualized billboards, you fight this by not looking at them(throway your face). Or you are having sexual thought in your head, you must make the choice of fighting it by killing that thought from your mind.

Secondly, you can flee from it. This is another considerable choice! You are expected to physically remove yourself from any form of temptation. If your friends start conversing dirty, leave the conversation. Get rid of that app on your phone that is tempting you towards lust. If you're watching a movie and it goes the other way round, please 🙏 turn it off. Don't keep watching it. Don't start to form ”James Bond”(claiming to be strong enough). Runaway from the temptation before it will end in words like, ”it’s the work of the devil.”

This is what I call; first of all, introduction, awakening, and preparation of your mind. Get set for more tips in my next publication.

WHAT MEN REALLY WANT IN WOMEN!

The desire of every woman is to be loved. However not every woman actually get loved. Often times, it comes from women misplacing their priorities and this hurled the increasing wave of loneliness ravaging Nigerian women.

This sensation could be greatly curtailed by knowing what it takes to win a man. Join me in today's edition as I walk you through the effective 6tips to knowing what a man really want in a woman.

INDEPENDENCE

Men certainly admire women who are independent and don't let that decide their feelings. This is because men are always looking at the end of the relationship and with the belief that they are more vulnerable to the risk of death, men want a woman who can carry on in their absence. ”How independent are you?”

INNER BEAUTY

It's not bad to have a great look, but most men do not commit owing to exceeding beauty. A lot of them look at the inner mind. You know what? - The perfect combination is the beauty that flows from the inside to the outside. ”How perfect is your beauty combination?”

OPTIMISTIC PARTNER

This is one area that melts the heart of men about women owing to the peculiar of men, (they are invariably out to break new grounds) they need a partner who will cheer them on especially when the chips are down. They need someone who will fire their visions, someone who will tell them they are doing well and have all it takes to make a dream work. 

Every man deserves an optimistic/encouraging partner and if you can give it, better for you. ”Encourage your partner.”

WOMEN AND DEMAND

Men don't get cool when they are mandated to do certain things and that includes dishing out of cash. If actually, you are the type that always demands from a man, you will be running a risk getting him to commit because the act of demanding puts men off, but if you tactfully present your feelings it will receive without asking and men are happier doing it. ”Lessen your demand.”

GOOD SEX

There's nothing that will make a man want a woman if her sex life is boring. It's natural. As much as possible brighten your sex life. You could be adventurous without being wild.

Men don't like all these excuses about being too tired. It reduces the attraction. So spice up your sex life and watch him go on his knees to have you. ”Now, you have to be married to practice this.”

HELP METE

Hello! That's why it's actually called ”PARTNERSHIP, ” men desire women who will complement them if there is an aspect of him that is inadequate, he looks for a woman who fills it up in terms of finance, education, spiritual and physical. Men always think in this direction. ”Be that woman who could share his passion for rock climbing.”

Do you know other tips? Kindly share your opinions and advice in the comments.